No Sex In 2 years

So we have a 2 yr old & im a stay at home mom and he works 5 days per week. The last time we were really intimate was when I was 6 mos pregnant. So in the beginning of Aug 2018 i had a serious convo with him about how im not fully happy because its almost 2 yrs without sex and I just feel like a roomate that he loves and how he kisses me once in a blue moon and hugs me every now and then. He blames it on work and the baby and his diabetes "erectile dysfunction" (which he hasnt treated because hes hardheaded). But Ill see him on the couch and notice hes slightly hard and he admits that he watches porn everyday especially before work. So to myself Im like, your mouth isnt broken and your fingers arent broken so why isnt anything happening? What about quickies? Anyway he said things will be different, so the next day there was a literal quicky in the kitchen. Now fastforward to Today March 25 and since that one day there has been nothing which almost makes it worse because its like he did it just to say he did it so I couldnt complain. I dont know what to do because in total there have been 3 conversations about my needs, I did also express to him more family time which he has been 100% on top of but as far as me and my needs as a woman and as a person...nothing. Sure ill get my "monthly" kiss or a hug here and there but thats it. Also in the past before that convo back in august, I had made many efforts to initiate sex, flirting, lingerie, touching etc and he would say "noo im tired, noo i dont feel good, noo im not in the mood" etc. During that convo I told him that him turning me down soo much everytime shot down how I felt about myself and he said noo your pretty your beautiful its work and blah blah and I told him that after being shut down soo much Im talking atleast 10 times that Im not going to be the one to initiate anymore and he said he understood. I digress...I just dont know what to do anymore, every so often I feel really down about it...but now I feel indifferent