When will I feel the joy?

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Today I found out I am pregnant. I was a little shocked as I wasn't expecting it. It is something I want. But I am not full of joy.
I suffered a loss in August, 11 weeks in. So... I'm pretty meh right now. I'm afraid to feel excited. I'm in "wait and see" mode.
I'm happy, I just feel like I need to not get excited just yet. Darn it.

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I didn’t start having the excitement until 13 weeks when I had the ultrasound and bean was still there and squirming around and I saw the heart beating myself. Then I calmed down slightly. Now I’m feeling the first movements. And have another elective ultrasound scheduled for a week from today at 15 and 3 to see about gender and then I will allow myself to more fully feel the excitement. I set small milestones. Make it to the first appointment. Make it passed my last miscarriage. Make it to that ultrasound. Each milestone I relaxed my shoulders and let me guard down a little more.

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It’s my rainbow too...not feeling excited just yet and I’m 12w+2d, everything has been going great I’m also just like “let’s see” 😩

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I’m so sorry for your loss 💔 
I just found out Sunday I’m pregnant and I also miscarried late August of last year. I totally get you about not fully being excited so you don’t get your hopes up. I’m trying to think positive although I can’t help but be a little nervous as well. I’ll be praying for you and baby 🙏🏼

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Expecting my rainbow baby and I’m feeling the same 🙁. My midwife said it’s normal, I’m hoping after the first U/S if everything is OK I’ll feel better.

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I didnt believe my rainbow was real until a 9 week ultrasound. I was completely convinced it was just going to be another loss. Then,there she was with her tiny gummy bear arms and legs wiggling on the screen. I laughed bc I was in such disbelief. 23 weeks pregnant now and feeling her move makes me so much more connected and engaged with myself and her. It's hard to open your heart up again. Give yourself time.

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I’m so sorry for your loss :( I feel the same. I’ve been wanting this day to come for so long now and now that it’s here I just don’t trust it. I haven’t even told my partner, four days after my bfp because I don’t want to make a big deal out it. I keep thinking “we’ll see what happens” while trying to keep my anxieties and guilt for not being excited under control. I wish you the best ❤️❤️

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I felt the same way after getting pregnant after miscarriage. To be honest, I didn’t enjoy my life next pregnancy until 22 weeks, when I was given the all clear after my 20 week ultrasound. My daughter is 8 months old and we’ve bonded just fine. When she was born, I think my first complete sentence was “that was all so hard but I’m so glad you’re here”. I literally remember thinking back to being newly pregnant and so numb and disconnected as I lay there after her birth... so I guess I’m saying the joy will come, and what you’re feeling is normal.

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🙋🏽‍♀️ Same here. I just found out i am pregnant with my (hopefully) rainbow baby. I am definitely keeping my distance from my pregnancy. I am excited and hopeful. I am just not “all in” yet🤷🏽‍♀️

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I’m 15 weeks pregnant after losing twin girls at 16 weeks and one girl who was 28 days old after being born at 25 weeks. I’m happy when I see her moving on the ultrasounds but I also feel like something horrible will happen until I see her again. I really haven’t bonded with her like I did my other pregnancies but I’m trying, hopefully after I can feel her move it will get better.

When will I feel the joy?

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