Why is being a sahm so hard??

I just need to vent to some momma's who may understand my frustration.

I've been a sahm before I even had kids, when my husband I got married he was in the army so I didn't work when I first moved to be with him because there was literally no place to work that wasn't fast food, or a stripper lol. But I did finally get a job within a couple months at the daycare center on post. However, during that time my husband was also getting medically discharged. So since the process was so long to start working I never did actually start working. We move home and I got a job, but then I found out I was pregnant and my husband was like screw it just be a sahm since we can afford it.

I've always been thankful for this opportunity. I've always been grateful for it, and my husband knows that. I tell him thank you for giving me this life so often.

But then on days like today, when I am absolutely burnt out. He makes it all about him. I have a 1 year old, soon to be two, 12 weeks pregnant with our second, and my husband decided two weeks ago to get a 10 week old puppy. On top of all this, we recently moved out of state so he could be closer to work. So now I'm not near my family. But we moved into this rental house that is absolutely disgusting and the rental company doesnt seem to care. So I've been having to clean everything top to bottom, and shampoo a room 5 damn times because this owner let her dogs use it as a bathroom. I'm at a breaking point. My husband works out of town 90% of the time, so everything falls on me. When he is home, I cant even take a nice relaxing bath without him constantly yelling at our toddler which then makes him cry. I want a break on my own, but I know I'll never be able to get it. I'm at the point where I don't even know who I am anymore. I have nothing to me. We will go out and have bbqs with his coworkers and it's like I don't even know how to be social. I have nothing to talk about. I wipes ass all day woohoo.

So I tell my husband how I'm feeling and he just makes it all about him.

He tells me we both can get jobs, then he can be home more. But who in the world is going to hire a pregnant lady who is going need time off within a couple months, and paying for a daycare is going to be a joke. We've already looked into doing that and theres no place that will even pay my husband anything close to what he makes now.

I'm just burnt.