Feeling Alone

Man, you ladies hopefully can't relate but I am sure you can. Ever had one of those days were you feel like no one understands being a mom, like everyone that day is just clueless..let me tell you about my day because I have no one else to talk to and this is the only way for me to maybe not feel so alone. Me and my two littles 3 and 21 months, have been sick all week! We finally had a day we're we felt like getting out and so I dressed the kids and myself and forced myself to get out so we could go get a bite to eat for dinner, the place is a little more of a "high end" sushi place but we've been going here for years and years (me and my boyfriend singularly and together even before the kids) so granted I have a lot of experience and know I can come casually dressed if I want.. my kids looked better than I did but I was clean (who cares really) we're going to eat not a fashion show, anyways we sit down to eat and server was okay, food came out awesome as always, while we were sitting there an older well dressed lady was seated beside us and was waiting for her friends, one of them arrived and I heard her (1st lady) ask 2nd lady if the spot was okay (granted were a table away and almost done eating) she (2nd lady) looks at us and at our messy table and floor (cause I have fucken toddlers and were feeling crappy) and goes.."ahhh, yeah let's not sit here" I felt really crappy but thought oh well don't take it personally but kind of felt bad, for as young as my kids are they're usually pretty good and I had the damn iPad with me and everything. Anyways moving on to I was ready to go and server is no where to be found, kids antsy, me ready to go so I get up and stand around go a min or two, still no server we decide to walk to the register (they have a to-go spot) and pay, well didn't realize they'd need my sever for this so they had to go hunt her down, so while standing there girl taking orders to go is making a strained face and covering her ears as if my kids are so annoying because my daughter was whining to me about something, really priority is supposed to be on the person in front of you I always thought..anyways waitress finally comes and goes "oh you want to check out, you could have just told me" I go "couldn't find you" she made some screwed up face and goes "mmmph" and grabs my card from my hand a little too rough, I know the main manager who is always there and noticed he wasn't there so who knows maybe an off staff day but I felt like invalidated as a mother, we drag out our kids to a restaurant because we're fucken drained and exhausted and people shun us like we have a disease and treat us like we're peasants, the only disease I have os motherhood and its just aggravating how people treat mothers, we are the ones keeping the population alive and brining in new doctors, lawyers, teachers, artists, etc. where the fuck is my respect and why am I the one feeling like an outcast because I wore my hoodie and leggings to dinner when ive been up late nights helping with fevers and tears and throw up! Fuck it! I'm so passionate about making mommas feels like they belong and I help other moms all the time with so much (like babysitting for a friend for free while she waits on her first couple paychecks for daycare and helping another new momma with food for her and clothes for her baby) it's so messed up and I feel so isolated, if I had came in with my heels and makeup and playing around on my iPhone I'm sure they would have treated me differently, it's just such a harsh judgement and a very odd feeling to feel an outcast as a mother and I am sure this applies to everyone who has been a mom and had some ass hole give you a sideways glance or roll their eyes at your kid or even worse try to correct your kid for you, let us do the work and treat us with respect! I hope I am alone on this, but I doubt I am. Let's be moms who lift each other up and make other moms feel good no matter if they're in a nice restaurant with their husband on a night out, or there with snotty nosed kids in sloppy house clothes. Thanks for letting me share