No matter how hard this is over 40 (and it gets harder and harder every year), just remember that YOU ARE WORTHWHILE, no matter what. Being a mom does not automatically make you a better person. Some of the worst women on Earth (eg., Susan Smith, Andrea Yates) were mothers. Some of the most accomplished women on Earth (Oprah, Maria Callas, Queen Elizabeth I) are/were not. So don’t place your self worth on being a mother. And while I am still trying at 43, turning 44 (1 percent odds) this week, also remember that some of the best mothers adopted or became egg donor moms. Some adopted kids would die for their adoptive parents while some people’s children kill them for their inheritance. And vice versa. Being a parent does not make you a de facto better person. And being a parent is not just about biology.