I’ll start by saying that my MIL and I have our differences. But on the whole, she raised 3 charming, intelligent, and emotionally-healthy kids (one of whom I happily married), so whatever her flaws, I’m trying to pick up some life and parenting lessons from her. This is our first, after all.

She’s been great during my pregnancy so far. Never judges my decisions or argues with me, tries to help me relax, stays out of my hair when I’m stressed. She didn’t bat an eye when I married her eldest son and didn’t change my name.

Yesterday she texted me to say she had found a coupon for 20% off single item at BuyBuyBaby. She (not her + my FIL) wanted to get me (not me + my husband) something $$$$ to make it count. She asked what I wanted. I felt a little greedy asking for the $420 glider/ottoman, but I had my heart set on it and I knew that convincing my husband to spend so much money on a chair would be tough, so that’s what I asked for (they’re well off). She texted me back the delivery date for the glider and something about being so excited for us to have it. And now I have one less big ticket item to worry about!

I’ve heard so many nightmare stories about in-laws. I really need to remember to count my blessings, including having a lovely, thoughtful MIL!

Update to ask: ideas for a thank you on par with the gift? I’ll definitely write a nice card and have them over for dinner, but it feels insufficient.