I need a place to vent. Family holiday (Easter) is coming up and I am a nervous wreck. We are going to my fiancé’s brother’s for the first time since we got engaged, and since I started showing. His SIL has been very cool toward me, saying some nasty things in private to my fiancé about my religion and life choices. I tried friending her on Facebook months ago, his mom too, they both declined my invitation. His mother cpuls be chalked up to technological ineptitude on her part, his SIL did it purposefully and recently unfriended him because she didn’t want to see his “daily life”...which means my posts and photos I tag him in because he rarely posts.

Anyway, I have to go into this gathering pleasant, ready to be accommodating and gracious, overlooking any slights. And I have to do it all with my 8 year old son. I love my son to death and would protect him with my life, but he has some emotional issues. He’s in a special program at school (technically SpEd), he recently had surgery to help some of these issues, and he’s starting ADHD medication. He can be a handful and I know I’m going to be judged harshly if he misbehaves. Putting him in any sort of competitive situation (i.e. egg hunt) always ends badly. At the same time, she was kind of cold and rude to him at a family event a few months ago and I am terrified it’s going to happen again and I am going to unload on her. Pregnancy hormones aren’t helping.

I don’t want to go. I dread it. I don’t want to put myself or my kid through that. I want his family to get to know me and to like me but this one person is making that difficult for me. I just want to stay home with my boy, watch stupid tv, and play in the yard. I am afraid to tell my fiancé this because I don’t want him to be disappointed in me, and I don’t think he will support me on this.

Do I just suck it up, grin and bear it for a few hours for the sake of his family? Or is it okay to beg off because I am legit a nervous wreck thinking about it?