Anal 🍑🍑

Ok so this guy and I have been hooking up (but not having vaginal sex bc I’m a lil virgin) for like five months now. I’m so shocked home boy actually still messes around with me bc I feel like I’m pretty boring. We’ve tried anal a few times (yessss I know for some ppl anal makes you not a virgin anymore but 🤷🏻‍♀️). His dick is literally huge. I can’t wrap my fingers all the way around even when I squeeze and I can give him a hand job with both hands on top of each other and deep throat sooo, needless to say, anal is PAINFUL. Not too sure which water based lube is the best, if there’s pre anal things that would loosen me up, or if it’s even safe??