Am I wrong?

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I just want to start by saying my sister in law just turned 18 and her daughter just turned 2 and her son just turned 6 months old and now she is pregnant again but am I wrong for being upset and depressed about it because I'll be 21 in August an I have no kids but I want them so bad and I feel like I'll never have them and I just feel like I want to cry but I can't because for the pass week I've figured out that she's pregnant again and no one believed me until today when she had to go to the hospital 😭😪🙆🙏

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Melissa. I find your comment incredibly rude. I got married when I turned 19. I got pregnant with my son at 19, had him at 20. I found out I am pregnant last week and I’m 22 almost 23. My husband and I are great parents and I don’t think I was too young. We got pregnant after we got married. We married in November, had a miscarriage is January and got pregnant again in February. He was very much wanted and taken care of. Who are you to tell someone they are too young to have kids? She asked a question don’t be judgemental. 
Amber. It is so hard when you see someone who can have kids easy like that. Now I don’t know if she is a good mom or not, you didn’t specify, but it can be frustrating either way. I have a relative who is a drug addict and alcoholic. She has had 6 kids, nine of which she has custody of. And she is pregnant with her 7th and still using. All of her kids were drug babies. I get super angry and emotional about it. I have a clotting disorder that makes it hard for me to carry pregnancies. I have had 8 miscarriages and as much as I want another baby it is gut wrenching because I’m constantly afraid I’m going to lose it. But keep your head and hopes up. You are still young and do still have time. I don’t think you are selfish or a terrible person for feeling sad about her being pregnant again. That makes you human. Your time will come.

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No, you're not wrong.  That's a totally normal feeling.  But there's plenty of time for you to have children.  For now, enjoy the time with your sister's kids and when it happens for you, you'll be totally ready for what to expect.

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I'm 25 and 37weeks with my first. I always wanted kids much younger but thank goodness I waited. You know how good it feels to have waited until I have my own house and cars and a good stable relationship. I get that these things aren't essential to have a baby but you know how good it was to just buy whatever travel system and nursery furniture I wanted because we saved and planned this baby. I'm so glad we had holidays and memories made before I have the baby. I'm a lot more mature now, yes I probably could have managed a baby younger but I didn't want to settle for just managing. I want to give my baby the best I can possible can.

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You are 100% feeling right! I'm going through the same thing atm my sil has 3 bio, 4 to 6 step, is a grandma and preggo again. Guaranteed I have 2 kids(not with my husband) but we have been trying well over a year countless negatives than one day back in Nov i completely stopped ovulating for unknown reasons. Doc apt Friday again to figure out why. But when she announced it I literally just died inside....my mind was like do u really need another one lol

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I think it’s normal to have a lot o mixed emotions about this. I think holding on to negative energy will not do you any good.. I think, every story on here I have read, as soon as someone lets go of their jealousy and hurt feelings about another’s pregnancy... that’s when they find out they’re also pregnant. I hope it happens for you soon 💜 I also started my family at 21 ☺️

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