Help me

My fwb is scared of hurting me even though I beg him to be more aggressive. 😩😩 I just want him to dominate me. I tell him I like the pain and a few times he’s gotten super demanding which really turns me on but I want him to be comfortable kicking it up a notch. I do think it’s kinda cute that he’s like this; however, it’s hard to be a brat and get punished when ya man doesn’t respond to that 🤦🏻‍♀️