So this is a long story but basically the love of my life has been dealing with depression since before I met him. His drinking has gotten worse in the last 3-4 years I’ve known him. We started talking when we were 17/18 and now we’re 23/24. We’ve almost officially been a couple for two years now. But about halfway through our relationship we’ve developed issues. He has these flair ups where I won’t hear from him days at a time. No text, no calls, nothing. There’s also been episodes of him showing up hammered at my house late at night and then making my house a mess. He is very inconsistent with his promises he makes. Some months we are doing great, and then there are others where I feel I’m crying because I get my hopes up only to have them crushed.

I know he’s got depression, and contemplates suicide. I’ve tried helping him with ideas on how to better himself (therapy, medication). He won’t try anything. I even offered to go to therapy with him. He’s not the type to ever tell anyone about his feelings or emotions. It’s very frustrating... so a week ago I decided to tell him we need to take a break and work on ourselves for awhile. I also suffer from depression and anxiety, but I take the proper medications. Well yesterday he deactivated his Facebook, the only social media he uses. And his friends messaged me on Facebook asking what happened.. they noticed he was off at work (they work together) and he was sent home early from work because of this.. he’s never the type to leave work early.

Basically I just need advice. Did I make the right call in breaking up with him? I’m also insanely upset. I’ve been on and off crying. I love him so much. I want a future with him.. but I can’t depend on him if we ever want children when he’s staying up til 4am drinking with his friends. Please give me some advice if anyone’s dealt with an alcoholic significant other.