Abortion

My brothers ex gf just told him she’s aborting their baby. She’s 12 weeks along. She just asked him to pay for half of the cost to find out the sex of the baby via blood work about a week ago.

Full disclosure- they were not together at time of conception. Just friends with benefits. They had been in a relationship about 8 months prior that ended not so great. Somehow they became friends again this past January, took a trip to San Fran in February and boom. We have a baby.

At first, she didn’t believe she was pregnant or could become pregnant due to an ectopic pregnancy years earlier that damaged one of her Fallopian tubes. However, it was confirmed later via blood test that she was and that the fertilized egg had safely implanted in her uterus. They had several dr appts that he was invited to. He was very excited regardless of their relationship status.

They went window shopping together and picked out cribs, strollers and other necessities. They even picked out names. She told him the baby would have his last name.

Then in the blink of an eye, she throws abortion on the table after a discussion about religion with my brother. Almost like a threat. Then tells him the baby won’t have his last name because she won’t feel connected to baby. Then says he is no longer invited to appointments. She instead texts him any updates and pics along with her feelings that he is not allowed to react to. Including her thoughts on abortion and how she does not want this baby with him.

She blocked him on all social media. Wouldnt allow him to tell any family. Got mad when he told me (his only sibling) and forbid him to tell her family.

Tonight I got the phone call I’d be dreading. She’s getting the abortion tomorrow. She blocked both of us from contacting her. He has no say, never did.

How do I support him? How do I help him out of this very dark time? How can he make it through this? Any advice would be greatly appreciated as our family is struggling to see the light at this moment.

Let me also say, I am pro choice. However, what she did, stringing him along. I do not agree with.