Has anyone else still found themselves (new moms and veteran mommas) struggling with the concept of being a mom?

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I cant believe my son if almost 5 months old and I still have days where I struggle being his mom. Am I alone? Does this ever go away?

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You’re not alone, I’m a FTM and while I am SO grateful for my miracle baby, there are days where I’m like “holy moly, I’m a MOM!” 😅 I love my LO with everything in me, don’t get me wrong 💕 its just a transition in our lives. I remember sitting thinking “I didn’t appreciate the simplicity of my life before baby”... if I wanted to go somewhere, hop in the car! It’s a Friday, let’s go out! Bored? Spontaneous road trip! I sat there like... all that is over... I should have seen more movies! 😂 Such selfish thoughts... here is this precious human that NEEDS me. The gravity of the responsibility of caring for another human sunk in ... but I absolutely love it, I’ve never known a love like this. It’s just some days I’m like “OMG I’m a mom!!” 😱😱😱 LOL!

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I start back to work tomorrow and I just dont know who I am anymore. I was a career woman for 20 years but I feel completely different now.

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I have a 7 year old that I feel like I've failed. He's in a stage where he just talks talks talks and I feel horrible for getting frustrated with him. He's also my child who's love language is touch, so he likes to snuggle and hugs and kisses and I feel so over touched at the end of the day with the baby and my 2 year old that I get frustrated. I try to keep my mouth shut though. Some days are better than others.

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My wee December baby is my second. And I feel like I've only become a mom now. My daughter is 6 so Ive been a mom for quite some time but I dunno, I never really thought of myself as a mom but now with two in toe, every once in  awhile I'm like holy crap. I think for me it was the transition of referring to my daughter by name when I was doing something where as now I say the kids.

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I am struggling as I am 45 with two boys aged 9 and 13 and now have a 4 month old baby girl ! I never ever expected to have another baby and so it’s hard to go back to the baby stage 😳

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I can honestly say I’ve struggled on and off with this. Particularly in the early days. I found myself thinking ‘this is my life now, I’m a mum’ the weight of the responsibility was very heavy on me. That plus hormones all over the place. I absolutely love my daughter more than anything. She is beyond perfect but I still get days where I struggle. She’s 4 and a half months now and it is getting easier. I think it’s just saying goodbye to the person you used to be and learning how to be completely selfless. I think expectation vs reality is a big influence too. I expected to be so overwhelmed with happiness and love but those early days we found so hard, sleep deprived, hormonal, my body was exhausted and I punished myself daily for not being able to push past how that exhaustion. I was tearful and I think a little traumatised by the birth. My girl is truly amazing and I think I’m finally starting to feel worthy of being her mum. Self doubt - ‘I don’t think I can do this’ is a killer. And you see all the other new mums saying how perfect it is and how happy they are. It was tough. But I had a turning point the other day at a baby massage class I’ve been going to for a while. We had a few weeks off and there were some new mums there, I all of a sudden found myself giving advice and something clicked. I felt more confident. I still don’t feel like myself, but I guess I probably won’t again because I’m now a mum. I’m ok with that. I keep reminding myself that when my daughter was born a new mum was born too. And we are learning together. I’m trying not to overthink everything and punish myself for these feelings and instead just enjoy the ride and go with the flow.

Has anyone else still found themselves (new moms and veteran mommas) struggling with the concept of being a mom?

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