Our first visit and first time!!

So I've been talking to this guy online. Dating or whathave you, for the past six months and he's coming to visit me in a few weeks. He doesn't live in the same state as me, so of course I'm nervous as heck. We've talked about sex a few times. He even knows I'm into roll play, whips and chains. But I'm nervous. He's not into me doing things to him but all for doing Kinky things to me. How do I get him to change his mind about it. Mind you we've never met in person and of course it'll be our first sexual encounter. Should I wait until after the second visit or jump right into it.

Tips and advice is highly appreciated. Thanks ladies.