From one women who lost there child to another

From one women who lost there child to another, i know you struggle to find your place in the world, i know you struggle with the question of am i a mom? What do you think of when you think of being a mom? You think of delivering your baby, and kissing there booboos and cheering them on in sports, but what if your child died in a car accident at 16? Your still a mom everyone still considers you a mom. When you lose your child hefore its born many people wont consider you a mom, you can have stretch marks, ultrasounds, first kicks etc. But when you lose the baby before its born you struggle with the question of am i a mom? Mothers day is a touchy subject and can be a painful one. Because do you consider yourself as a mom or not? I have no answer to this question, because i lost my twins before 14 weeks, so i am in limbo and with a lot of you women out there. But if getting flowers or whatever makes you feel better and more whole then do it. Don't let others tell you that you aren't a mom. Because you are. Your babys just passed away before you got to do all the things you wanted. Heres to all the types of moms on mothers day. Wether your babies and kids are living or not, or are only your kids by marriage, or your the one who steps up to care for the child.