Last name...

I need help.

I am 32 weeks pregnant, baby will likely be here any day at this rate.

Baby's father and I aren't married, nor are we engaged, and I don't honestly know if I'll ever marry him.

We are still together, but dealing with a lot. I'm a victim of domestic abuse, sadly. Father has domestic battery on his record now because he choked me multiple times after a night of heavy drinking and pill popping.

While I realise some will say I'm dumb for staying with him, thats not what this is about.

When Baby is born, I am not giving them his last name. I plan to give them mine. Naturally hes asked what it will be and I've avoided answering his question pretty avidly.

But its going to have to be answered eventually.

How do I tell him I wont give our child his last name until he does right by me?? I have tried wording it but I know he will be mad and will talk to everyone about it and they will all tell him I'm unfair and make matters worse.

I am firm in this, and I do not think its unfair.

Please help😕