Am I too young to get my tubes tied?

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Long story short I hate a really tough pregnancy, from start to finish I was high risk because of a negligent obgyn. Who never cared about my concerns or worries I ended up in a emergency c section, & suffer from ptsd. I’m only 21 & I’ve decided that I do not want any more kids. Not now not in the future, I was talking to my husband & he said it’s my choice it’s my body. But I was talking to his mom & my mom & his mom said I was selfish.. & my mom said she’s gonna support me 100% no matter what I decide. Has anyone had there tubes tied and regretted it? If you did get them tied what was your reasoning, (if you care to share) I don’t wanna intrude in anyone’s privacy.

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Your body your decision . You don’t need to justify it to anyone

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You can look on childfree subreddit, they have a list of doctors that might have some near you that are more open to doing young people. The youngest person on there was 18, never had kids, and got sterilized! I'm 21 and going to do it hopefully next year when I get insurance again. 
I don't think there's a too young as long as you're 18 and are 100% and know that it's considered to be irreversible

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I’m sorry you had such a bad experience while pregnant. But I personally would get some form of birth control for now and try to fix the ptsd with therapy before making a permanent decision. Not all pregnancy and delivery stories are like yours, in fact very few are...so just know it will be better if you end up choosing to have another baby in the future.

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I’m 25 and mine were completely removed.. I’ve got 4 kids already.. as of right now I don’t regret it. My pregnancies were all rough and high risk. All my babies were pre term. So we thought it would be best.

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Selfish? Selfish to make a decision about your body... because pregnancy was awful for you. Sorry, no. You’re the inhabitant of your body and you’d be the one living through the next pregnancy. She just wants more grandkids and if anyone is selfish its her for making you feel pressured to go through something that literally traumatized you a second time.

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My sister in law had hers tied at 22. She decided  14 years later that she wanted another baby so they did IVF. There’s also the option of having them untied if you change your mind. It’s only 50/50 that the reversal works though. But you could still have more kids later if you decide to. There’s nothing wrong with making the decision now to do it. You’ll have to find a non catholic hospital/dr.

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My last pregnancy was really bad and I was High risk at the time I was 21  at that point it was my second and I said that I didn’t want to have kids again I got an iud at the time.but just within the last year I got baby fever and I said that I had a little bit of fight in me to try again. I was optimistic that the same thing didn’t happen again but unfortunately it had been a battle and this time me and my husband decided for sure that this is it. I would suggest maybe doing birth control for some years.

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Unfortunately there won't be many doctors who will do that procedure due to your age/: it bullshit. But if that's what you 100% believe you want you should get it. But please be advise many doctors will refuse it.

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I have a good friend who tried to get her tubes tied after her first, when she was 26. She had a pretty traumatic, abusive situation with the father, and the birth wasn’t great either. She literally couldn’t find a doctor who would do the procedure for her even though she was absolutely sure. She was pretty pissed at the time, but 5 or 6 years later, she met a great man and had 2 more kids. So 🤷🏽‍♀️

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I was in your shoes at your age and I only had 1 child at the time. I so desperately wanted my tubes tied and no one would do it unless I had 2 or more or age 29! Which crazy! The amazing thing now is there are more surgeons advocating for women in your shoes!
In the interim I highly suggest birth control! I didn't follow my own advice and now have 2 more children. I love my babies but I'm doing it alone.
It's possible to find someone! Just keep looking and researching.
If you don't think you'll change your mind.

Am I too young to get my tubes tied?

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