I’ve been on here before for my ongoing dilemma and ranting has helped my mental well being.

My DH recently decided to a body building competition. These recent unnecessary expenses (such as additional food, supplements, vitamins, & trainers) have only made worse our financial struggles. So much so that I don’t eat meals anymore just to save money. I try to discus with him just the finance parts and he just doesn’t get it. The idea of budgeting or sacrificing just isn’t how he was raised. He suggested refinancing our house!

My newest whine-baby complaint is that he has taken to IG to posting pictures of himself in his underwear. (I assure you if I did the same thing he would be hostile). Additionally, he has started to follow local (like people that workout at our gym) fitness/body builder people, 75% female... I am not insecure about my body but I just had a baby 5 months ago. But damn, my body is not body builder status and will never look like that in a bikini.

This whole ordeal has made feel like we have nothing in common anymore and I don’t know him. His obsession almost seems vain and is not an attractive quality. I support silently. I know the moment I say anything he will blame me and quit. There is no happy medium.