Peace

How do I get my kids to leave me alone. Like my son who is 4 months gives me more space than my daughter but barely. My daughter was held constantly so she’s spoiled and used to getting her way and I’m trying to break that. But their dad still holds both of them way too much for my liking. And it’s starting to get to the point where my son tries to force me to pick him up. My kids only have actual tears when something is wrong but other times they scream bloody murder with a dry face only to laugh and smile when I realize that nothing is actually wrong with them. What do I do? They’re driving me crazy. I can’t even lock myself in the bathroom without my daughter standing outside the door throwing a tantrum😪 like can I please take a shower alone? Can I use the bathroom without interruptions? Even if they’re sleep. They wait good and well until I’m in the bathroom and all of a sudden just wake up😣😖 like NOOO leave me alone😭