Is it appropriate if your husband texts another female in the shower?

Hello.

I never like using my phone in the shower. But recently found out that my husband texts this girl in the shower. It’s the same girl I’m worried about. They met last year on an app and have been talking/texting everyday since. I found out about her on my own. She lives in another country. He sent her a package without telling me. I found out by finding the receipt in his jacket. It says the country where she is from. He has no remorse that he ever done it. He sent her a card and chocolates (so he says), it’s in February. He has female friends and he never sends anything to them. Not on their bday or Valentine’s Day. I think he does have feelings for this girl because he has been telling her she is beautiful when she sends selfies more than he ever compliments me. Lately, he has been telling me why can’t I take care of myself or try to look pretty or wear nice outfits. We don’t have jobs. He has been playing video games. He is 25. We can’t afford to wear nice clothes. We’ve been buying clothes from Walmart. We have a toddler. I’m busy taking care of her.

Everyone (His own family and best friend) says he manipulated me into marrying him.

I told him how I feel and he has been telling me how ridiculous I am every single time.

When he showers alone, he also does his private business in the shower. So do you think it’s appropriate for your husband to text a person of the opposite sex? He doesn’t see anything wrong with this. What do you think?