Need to vent...

I've put in about 50 hours a week at my regular job for the last two months and needless to say as a mother of two children on top of a full time job and a business that I own, my house is a disaster. I am happily married and yet I am so frustrated and want to kick everyone out of the house today to catch up on house work that hasn't been able to get done because on top of my schedule my husband has also been working 40+ hours a week and watching the kids all while helping his parents remodel their house ...he has the audacity last night to say to me 10 minutes before some surprise guest show up " our house looks terrible! It needs to be cleaned, I'm embarrassed to have people here." #1 excuse me, I'm not the only MF that lives here. #2 it would be amazing to get some help. #3 maybe give me more then 10 minutes to do an entire sink full of dishes and pick up the toys and laundry out of the living room. I am almost at my breaking point today...even the tiniest things and sending me into a rage, like the special water bottle I got from a work convention and haven't had a chance to use but my daughter has lid was lost, when it was finally found the crystal clear plastic lid had been completely scratched to hell and the rubber seal destroyed because my helpful husband chose to clean it with the green scratching sponge. So it is completely fucked. Is it so much to just want one nice thing? I just want someone to appreciate that I am trying my best to keep up with this hell that is adulthood.