Am I Obligated To Be His Friend?


Theres this guy I used to hang out with a lot when we were kids. Long story short, things were fine when we were younger but now that we're adults I can't stand him.

Right now his parents are going through an extremely messy divorce and his sister is on drugs. I think I'm the only person he talks to about it. The divorce has been going on for... years? It seems like.

I don't think he has a lot of friends. I think I was his only friend.

Heres why I can't stand him now that we are adults.

He is very socially awkward because all of his life he was shut out from the rest of the world because of his mom. He doesn't get social hints. (Example: My mom was trying to watch TV and he starts talking loudly about something, she acted uninterested and turned up the TV to try to give him a hint that she wasn't interested in talking about it. He didn't understand that and continued to talk, but louder.)

He refuses to do anything that anyone else wants to do when we hang out. He's always suggesting things that nobody else is interested in. I was on MY PS4 in MY house in MY room watching what I wanted (I did think he would find it interesting as well.) and he had the audacity to tell me what I was watching was stupid and proceeded to make me watch a really stupid, gross comedy show on Netflix.

He talks nonstop about... everything. And its all shit that I don't care about, and I've told him multiple times that I do not care. Almost everytime I see him, he tells me I should watch Stranger Things on Netflix. I told him I wasn't interested, MULTIPLE TIMES. And yet everytime I see him, "Hey you know you should really watch Stranger Things. You should really watch it its so good c'mon watch it I think you'd like it."

He talks nonstop about politics and rape cases in the government and he's just so opinionated about it. I've made it clear to him that I have no interest in talking about that stuff yet he still continues to talk about it.

He's really obsessed with porn. He kept suggesting that my fiance and I play this weird anime porn game. I did give it a shot but its nothing I'm really interested in but he kept pestering me about it asking me if I was playing it and what I thought about it.

Basically all of our conversations are actual conversations. Its just him, basically talking to himself for hours and hours and hours about God knows what while everyone just sits there and tries to ignore him.

I invited him over (not really wanting to.) and he talked for HOURS. To the point I was shaking and having a panic attack. I told him he was freaking me out by talking so much and that he was throwing so much information at me all at once. Yep, you guessed it. HE!!! KEPT!!!! TALKING!!!!!

Ive tried giving him hints that I don't want to hang out for MONTHS. Ranging from telling him I have to work to just flat out ignoring his texts. He doesn't get it.

He asked to hang out again the other day and I told him I work and have a wedding to go to. He immediately asks, "Ok what about next weekend??"

I can't take it anymore. I blocked his number, I blocked his mom on Facebook.

I'm 18, he's 21, never had a job in his life, no friends, lives with his mom still.

My point: He needs to get the hint that I don't want anything to do with him and he needs to get out and make friends that actually have something in common with him. I feel bad because I ghosted him, but he's just not getting it.

So, am I in the wrong?