Need to vent..

So I’m currently 3 weeks postpartum with my second baby, my first is almost 9 years old. It’s my second and my husbands first child.

So obviously things have been rough since baby is born. Waking up at night and just overall in general tiredness that comes with a newborn and pregnancy etc...

So, my husband is playing on the Xbox and I ask him if we could watch something on tv together and he answers “not now” so fine wtv. So I go sit next to him to cuddle and he starts a conversation like this :

Him: I feel neglected

Me: How? In what way ?

Him: I just do

Me: if u don’t tell me how will I know ?

Him: nvm

Me: no I want to know, tell me

Him: I want a wife. Sometimes I feel like I have a wife and sometimes I feel like I have just a girlfriend.

Me: huh? What is this supposed to mean ?! I’m not a good wife ?!

Him: that’s not what I said

Me: so you’re not going to elaborate ?! (I start crying at this point cause I’m hurt by what he said)

Him: give me a hug

Me: (trying to explain to him how this is childish and he can’t start a convo and not elaborate afterwards

Bottom line: he refused to elaborate so I just took my phone and went to sit somewhere else.

I’m genuinely hurt by what he said but more so the fact he does not want to elaborate. I sincerely do my best to keep up with the 2 kids and the sports and the household and our pets and supper etc and since giving birth its just been crazy and honestly we’ve both been exhausted. I’m not sure what I’m doing wrong or what I’m not doing.

Our sex life hasn’t been the best since I was pregnant cause we had a few bleeding episodes and well now we don’t do much bc I just had the baby. I’m not sure what to make of this or what I’m supposed to do with this kind of information or lack of ...?