He works from 6am-2pm. I’m a SAHM. He will come home from work, grab a snack, and fall asleep until it’s time for dinner. Then he’ll stay up for maybe another 3 hours and either 1.) watch tv 2.) play his video game 3.) play with our 1 year old. After he’s done this he goes straight to bed. Doesn’t help with bed time routine or nothing.

Now I was irritated with this already before and now we have a 4 day newborn. So he continues with his daily routine while I struggle with both kids, bleeding profusely, in pain from stitches, breasts super engorged and painful and every other thing that comes from child birth.

Well our newborn has been having a rough time at night sleeping. And when she cries, she’s so loud that it wakes our 1 year old and then I have a cluster of problems. This motherfucker doesn’t even twitch in his sleep let alone offer me any help. Then has the audacity to wake up after his good nights rest and say, “I’m so tired.”

I’ve tried sitting him down and been very calm and collected and explained my feelings and how I really need the help and I’m so sleep deprived already and all this dickwad does is get defensive and acts as if I’m being too demanding.

Fuck him 🤬🖕

Edit: just for the people asking no he wasn’t like this with our first born. He was very attentive and helpful. So I’m not sure what happened between then and now.

Update: So I ended up texting my mother in law and expressing my frustration and issues. I can always count on her to just let me vent about her son and for her to comfort or console me. She offered to come over and watch the kids for me after she got off work and I told her, “i appreciate the offer but that’s not your job. He’s the father. You work full-time and you still offer to help, he works the same amount of hours so there’s no reason he shouldn’t be helping.” Well he went over to their house this evening to drop off a lawn mower and she must of had a conversation with him cause he came back home and was offering to help me with dinner and asked what he can do with the kids.

I hate that it took my mother in law to scold him into doing what he should have already been doing since day 1, but I’ll take what I can get. I did sit down with him again tonight and explain in further detail my frustration. He was much more open and apologized. He still tried to justify his laziness by saying his job “wasn’t physically demanding but mentally and that wears on a person”....I shut that theory down quickly cause he’s only been working his job for 2 weeks 🙄 Anyways I hope that he keeps his promises of helping me and starts stepping up as a father 🤞