PLEASE READ IN FULL/ COURT ADVICE

Before I begin, leave nasty and judging comments aside..

My husbands ex wife had two boys when they married and had their son. One of whoms dad waved rights after she harassed him for YEARS... and the other was a product of an affair, with two failed dna tests.

He has raised these two as his own, paid child support for them (which he was paying close to $2000 a month for.. which was 60% of his income!!)

The oldest boy has routinely thrown in his face he’s adopted, and has severe behavioral issues... the second son has blatantly treated my son and I like crap since my husband began seeing me. As In chasing my son with an air gun saying it was real and shooting at him.. screaming whore at me.. breaking a tv.. breaking his brothers arm..

I’ve never once disciplined these two, outside of grounding to their room , and have always been very caring toward them. I made excuses.

Their mom told us one day how wonderful we were and how great things were we all could get along.. how happy the boys were. Until the last few months. The craZy antics have amped up. She wanted MORE money.. and decided to basically treat this like a hostage situation: we got to see them, and but they repeatedly tell us they hate us and terrorize the other kids. The two oldest are lying with their mom.. in hopes my husband and I divorce. Alleging abuse and neglect. Which are clear cut lies.

My husband is a GOOD man who has put up with this for over half a decade. He is done. He wants to sign off his rights to the adopted two, but isn’t sure what to do.

Like I said please don’t judge.. but we’ve been doing this a year and it’s getting worse: she’s made threats before, but the boys have also been getting worse. One left marks on my arms.. I genuinely fear for my kids safety.. their anger is horrible, and they say they hate us and want nothing to do with us.

I’ve done all I could.. from letters of encouragement.. answering calls and texts no matter when.. and I’m worn down

I also want to add her and the second son have made comments if he gives her more money and gets rid of me - they’ll stop. It’s horrible..

EDIT

Some of it we have I’m sure. We’ve never thought it would come to this, but I guess that shows we naive. The two kids are in middle school.

Also to add my career is caregiving and this will seriously impact my ability to work...

Update

Talked to lawyer we can’t sign off rights- but we can terminate visitation rights... we’re wanting his son here

She’s taking about 48% of his checks now. Just hit