Is it right???

My husband says he wants to spend more time with me and says he knows he is rude and dissrespectful to me lately and I told him then he needs to change that. Then he always wants to hangout with his best friend who has his ex around and his best friends neighbor's daughter likes my husband but he won't tell her to back off and that is he is married at all. He refuses to let me go over there to meet them and the mother is trying to push her own daughter onto a married man and the best friend had told his neighbors that. Then they end up planning a get together and invite my husband and he doesn't even ask if I can go also. I told him if the situation was switched then my first response would be can my husband go also. If they said no then i would say sorry I can't go then. Is it right for my husband to stay and do the get together and hangout out with them every damn day and not spend time with me who is his wife??? When he does this then yeah he makes me feel insucure and he is always saying I am everyday but I tell him that I'm not. I keep telling him I am his wife and I want more of his attention and I feel like he doesn't listen to me about that at all.