Husbands dropping the ball A LOT

This is gonna be long lol

We’ve been married a little over 7 years.

Like every couple, we’ve had good times and bad.

I’m a type a person- super organized, a go getter, driven, very observant. He is a type b, super easy going, no stress, super emotional.

Every few months I have enough of picking up his slack and making excuses for him and overlooking his lack of responsibility.

We fight, he says sorry, promises he’s gunna try and make some positive changes and then a few days to a week later it’s the same old same old.

I get no one is perfect and I’m not asking him to turn into a type a person but he needs to step his game up.

He’s a great provider, works hard and is very good at his job, I will give him that credit. He helps around the house when I ask but bitches the whole time. He’s a great dad to our kids.

Literally the only thing I ask him to do is put the trash to the curb once a week, and the recycling every 2 weeks. He’s supposed to take care of the outside but for the most part I mow 90% of the time. He’ll weed whip after I ask multiple times.

If I don’t remind him to take the trash/recycling out I have to rush and get it out before it’s picked up and that irritates me.

I pay all the bills, he opened a paypal and this is the second month he’s paid it late, I paid it the day after because he “forgot” he doesn’t understand that a $30 late fee is a big deal. Let alone the possibility of it hurting his not so great credit score.

He doesn’t even brush his teeth on the regular and then gets pissed I won’t kiss him. I don’t have perfect hygiene but he’s 31 and maybe brushes his teeth twice a week if that! But I’m a bitch for complaining about it.

I have to remind him to get in contact with his ex wife to see his 2 other kids continuously.

We’ve been bickering the last few weeks and he’s had a piss poor attitude and has been harsh to the kids and mean to me. He understands that him acting like that makes me not want to be around him.

We have a concert to go to this weekend and I really don’t even want to go with him even though it’s one of my favorite artists.

I’ve been thinking the last few days, it’s been like this for 7 years should I just give up and get over it because he’s not going to change? If he wanted to change this process wouldn’t be repeating itself over and over again.

We both went to separate counseling about 2 years ago, it helped me a lot with my own issues. With him it was all about how “horrible” his childhood was (he was the baby of the family, 11 when his parents split up, his dad drinks a lot and his mom bought his love) not a fantastic upbringing but definitely not horrible like he thinks. He didn’t work on himself it seemed like when he was going, then he just stopped.

I love him, I try not to be harsh but I expect so much better from him.

I’ve been praying about it.

I try to keep communication open but I’m at the point that I’m so upset, stressed and pissed that I just don’t have much to say.