Mother-in-law/miscarriage

My husband and I have been married for four years. Before we got married my husband and I talked about when we should kids and what not. We decided to start away and right away is what we did. Last year we miscarried she didn’t call, text, come over nothing!! I was honestly heart broke. Than that week she told me that I needed to jump back into life and let go of this miscarriage that we lost because the two aunts in the family did it so I should be able to do the same. I couldn’t do that. It was too fresh and was still hard on me. How do you deal with this? Do you talk to her about how this made me feel? Would you not talk to her or what? Please let me here. Thanks!