Need to rant

My MIL is driving me absolutely nuts. She has decided that her only interest and hobby is going to be us and her grandkids. She tries to see us weekly which is way too much for me. She is overbearing and happily crosses personal boundaries on a regular basis.

She is 100% aware that her behavior bothers me and makes me uncomfortable and she does not give a shit. She offers advice on sleepsacks, breastfeeding and eating, diapers, finances and parenting every time we see her. Of course we never ask her for the advice she gives.

I've tried the kill her with kindness method, the straight up bitch method, the in the middle in different method, and nothing works. I feel like I'm at a loss and all I can do is try to maintain personal boundaries.

She tries to come off as a woe as me, passive grandmother type but her true colors are the opposite. She is cunning and manipulative and my husband gets duped a lot with her bc he doesn't see it coming most of the time.

Just had to vent here. I try not to dwell on her but it's really hard sometimes especially right now with our second child on the way shes really bringing out the crazy. Shes currently trying to put herself in charge of diapers for my newborn and toddler for some reason. To which I'm responding that we have the diaper situation under control.

I wish she would get a part time job or at least another hobby to take the pressure off of us, but she has expressed zero interest in anything else but being a grandmother to her grandkids.

It feels like a constant battle for me to keep her at the distance I'd like her to be at and her continuing to try to be as intimate as possible with us. My in laws even asked to live with us once.

Just want to be clear that I would never exclude her from her grandkids lives, but seeing them once or maybe twice a month would be more than enough for us.

Thanks for listening.