Long story short, over the last 3 years I have been having to nag my husband to have sex with me. Most times I have attempted to so it he brings up an excuse (back pain, neck, leg, head, knee pain, etc.) Sometimes he doesn’t say anything and just ignored my advances all together.

We have had MANY talks over the years of me telling him that when he rejects me I feel really insecure about myself and feel like he doesn’t want me. Especially when I was pregnant with our now 8 month old son.

Fast forward to last night. Over the weekend he was hyping me up saying he was “going to fuck his wife”. I was excited. Then two days passed and nothing happened, he didn’t address it. I got upset and tried to talk about it and he ignored it. Last night, we were watching tv after our son went to bed when he started to fall asleep. I started getting upset because he told me we would spend quality time together and I knew later on in the night he would be wide awake enough to play xbox for several hours.

I told him I wanted all of his attention like he does with the xbox and I started getting defensive and insecure again. He started getting mad and walked away to play xbox to cool pff. About 1 in the morning we decided to have a talk again. It pretty much ended with him telling me that

1) he hasn’t been wanting to have sex with me because of the way i get upset if we don’t do it. (We really don’t have sex often at all and we are a young married couple who even our marriage counselor has said we should be doing it 3-4 times a week.)

2) he hasn’t been wanting to be around me sometimes and avoids contact because he doesn’t want to accidentally do something to cause an argument.

3) I am a burden for him to carry sometimes

I can’t stop crying and. Don’t know how to handle this situation or how to even act around him. I just keep having panic attacks because I feel unwanted but I do get upset and feel like I can’t blame him for feeling this way. Mostly I just feel like everything would be better if i just disappeared overnight.