Advice (If it’s negative or mean keep it to yourself)

I’ve been seeing this man on and off since 2004. I have seen other people in the past but no one has really compared to him. I finally moved on 3 years ago and dated my baby’s father for 3 years. Unfortunately, we broke up due to distance and other issues. Let’s just say the break up was a blessing. I prayed about it and moved on. He’s a great father and friend now. Anyway I ran back to my guy, friend. I’ve been flying back and forward to see him since November. He’s yet to visit me. Every time I move on he’s harassing me and chasing me down. If I give in, he still doesn’t make effort to please me in any way possible. I’ve been dealing with him since he was 19 and he’s 34 now. He’s my first love, but he’s never given me a commitment. However, he committed to one girl years ago, and has proudly talked about only having one girlfriend in his life. Well, he cheated on her with me. I know I was stupid, but shit happens. The entire time I was in my relationship and while I was pregnant he was harassing me. I never gave in and I never cheated on my ex! Not once! Y’all I just left him a couple of weeks ago, and I enjoyed every second with him as usual. But NOW, I’m OVER it! I don’t know how to leave him alone or what to do. I just know I can’t continue to allow this man to treat me this way, better yet, I can’t keep treating myself this way. I’m a decent woman and I deserve so much more. I’m asking you all not to be too judgmental, but yet encouraging. I know I can move on regardless of the heartbreak that will come afterwards.

* Update : Thanks for being supportive, sweet, kind women! You’re all AWESOME.

*The other women broke up with him a year later. We’re both classy, highly educated women. He’s a decent man, but clearly he’s a player and a user.