Am I the only one who thinks this way!? Help

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Hey ladies! I'll be on here a lot as I don't have any friends going through this and feel super alone. We don't know each other but I feel You ladies are such a god send with encouragement and support! We are starting our first IVF cycle in about a week. I just feel like I am too young to be having problems with fertility. I'm only 30! I feel kind of like I have failed (my husband says I crazy for thinking this way). Also with all the emotions I've already gone through and now I will go through I can't help but thinking about how my baby will be made in a lad.... And not the natural way. I know this is horrible to say... But did anyone else have these kind of feelings and emotions!?

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I feel they way too. I'm only 27 and have just fallen pregnant with IVF. I have PCOS, but my tubes are also blocked so I had no hope. Sometimes it gets me down thinking we didn't make our baby the 'natural' way. But other times I feel so blessed and amazed that it was still possible with IVF. It doesn't matter how we get there, our babies will be loved beyond measure.

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I completely understand and I am right there with you! I am 30 and my husband and I are doing IVF and I just did my first injection last night. It has been about 10 months of trying to figure out what is going on with me (severe PCOS), having the exploratory surgeries to make sure everything is ok, so many blood tests, trying different medications. It's so unbelievably hard. Especially when it seems like everyone around you is getting pregnant. It's impossible to not have those why not me, why don't I deserve this type of thinking. My husband is the most supportive and wonderful man on the planet, and he reassures me all the time that he wouldn't change anything, but it's hard not to think that it would be easier if he was with someone else. If he didn't have to deal with all my pain and crazy emotions, and spend so much money, all to just have a baby when it seems like it is so easy for everyone else. It seems like your husband is very supportive and caring as well :) it is such a tough and difficult journey, but we just have to remember why we are doing it - for that precious baby that is half you and half your husband! I'm so thankful and grateful for these sites, because it is so difficult to find support and people who think like you. Sometimes going through these feeds, you find a topic that is the exact same thing you are thinking and it makes you feel less crazy! Good luck to you!!

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Infertility does not discriminate, I've been infertile since I was 19. I kinda feel the same way & I'm trying really hard to get pregnant naturally but doctors say I need IVF because I have tubal infertility. So yes it sucks but if that's what u have to do to have a baby then we have to let go of that thinking & just be happy that we can become mothers unconventinally

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Similar situation to all of you. My husband and u tried for a little over a year and got preggo but ended in miscarriage. I have been seeing a specialist who says I have unexplained. Only my amh is low for my age 29. We've done two unsuccessful rounds of clomid and now r in our tww from injections and iui. If this doesn't work will have to do Ivf. I also feel like I'm letting my hubby down. He also tells me it's not true and he's happy just with me either way. I just know how I feel and its guilty. I just want my rainbow baby

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That's how I'm feeling, I'm 29 and it just hasn't happened for us.. We're in the getting tested process and I am terrified of the results.. They said they'll start clomid soon, having sex is not making love but a chore.. I am so exhausted.. 
Yet on the other hand this group and this app gives me hope.. I'm not giving up..

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You're not alone. I felt that way too at first but then I accepted the fact that this was my fate. The support I get from DH, family and friends remind me that I'm doing the right thing and that at least I'm doing this now while time is on my side still.

Am I the only one who thinks this way!? Help

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