I can’t get over it? (Long story, I’m sorry)

Hello all, my name is Danielle, I’m 23. I have a fiancé, Mitch, who is 29.

We have been together for a year and a half, and as amazing as he is, and as lucky as I am to have him...I can’t get over what happened on our 1 year anniversary. And I need help...

So...story time!

Our anniversary falls on Mother’s Day weekend. He is heavily involved with church, president of his church’s scout group to be precise, and they sell roses on Mother’s Day to help raise money. I know this, he knows this, he’s usually crazy busy all weekend. So I told him “if you want to move our anniversary planning to next week, I really don’t mind.” He constantly reassured me for MONTHS that “it’s fine” “don’t worry about it” “I PROMISE IT WILL JUST BE US THE DAY BEFORE”...

Come Saturday, when we are supposed to have our anniversary date, he calls me and tells me he had to cancel everything up until 6pm because he ended up being busy with the church stuff. Okay...not what I wanted to hear, but I understood. Come 5pm, I get another call, he has to push it to 7pm, but he PROMISES it’s 7pm for sure. It’s off by an hour, I don’t mind. Come 7:45pm, I’m calling and texting him, asking where he is. He finally answered and said he was on his way.

Now don’t get me wrong, where we had dinner was absolutely beautiful, and the food was so good...but...within 5 minutes is seating...he’s on his phone...and that’s when it really started to hurt... he’s on his phone a lot when we are out but I don’t mind, because sometimes I’m on mine too, but this was a special occasion, he promised over and over again I’d be his only attention for the rest of the night...

And then it got worse, constantly checking, had to answer the phone twice, he tried to HIDE IT after a bit but I still knew, it was still obvious...at this point I’m broken, I couldn’t look his way without wanting to cry. I had tears by the end of the night.

It’s 9:30pm, we get in the car, and he’s going crazy fast down the freeway. I’m confused, because it’s early? Why would he be in such a rush to get to my house? So I ask, and he said he needed to be home by 9:45pm...I asked why, and his said because he had church people at his house prepping flowers, he had to go and clean up.

My heart broke, I couldn’t hide it anymore, I was crying, trying hard not to get so upset. He asked what was wrong, I told him, he got MAD AT ME! For being so upset. He dropped me off, gave me a lousy sorry, and headed home.

I didn’t talk to him for 3 days...he was so confused as to why I was so upset with him.

Now, he isn’t one to break his promises. He keeps them no matter what happens, if something does interfere, we usually work around it, and it’s okay.

But I wasn’t okay with this. His church has forced him to help them with tedious things before, and it’s interfered plenty with our plans, so much to the point where he had to cancel something we were already doing 2 cities over...and the fact that he had chosen their attention over mine, on one of our biggest milestones...I’m sorry, not okay. HE ISNT EVEN THAT INTO CHURCH, he isn’t heavily religious, his family is!!

Anyways, it took us weeks to mend it...but I still haven’t gotten over it, and I’m not sure i ever will...I need help, please? Advice, anything...