Am I in the wrong?

Hello. I’m in the process of joining the military. I’m married and have a daughter. My husband will be a stay at home dad. But he has a female friend I get worried about at times. He has other female friends I’m not worried about. So chill on the “a man can have female friends if he wants” comment. I worry about this one because they talk absolutely every day and he hides her from me. I found her out on my own. He send her a package through the mail. I found out later. Ever since he did that, my love for him has completely gone. He was willing to move in the same country as her as a teaching job. He isn’t a teacher nor wants to be. He keeps saying she is just a friend but that is total bull.

I told him “if I’m out on basic training, if he can not send her any pictures or videos of our daughter.” I’m not saying to stop talking to her because he won’t. I had that talk with him before.

He started arguing about it. Saying “what if I accidentally send her a pic of our daughter without realizing it. I’m not gonna say I won’t because I might.” Then later saying “now, that you mentioned it, I’ll definitely send her pictures of our daughter .”

Am I in the wrong? After I come back from technical school, I’m divorcing him.