Long post sorry.

Me and my fiance have been together for 5 years, we met through our mums as they worked together and they were/are friends.

Fast forward 3 1/2 years and my fiances mum moved 6 hours away 2 weeks after we told them we were having our first baby. His mum has always been involved via facetime and visits but no way near as much as my mum as she only lives round the corner so we see her most days.

As you can imagine our daughter is closer to my mum than his as she saw her more. Shes now 18 months and my fiances mum has moved back to our town so she is around a lot more and our daughter has grown closer to her which is great.

My mum is jealous that his mum is back and now a constant in our daughters life and it's always just been my mum as her only grandmother that she sees regularly.

My fiances mum has been coming round more often and spending more time with her so she gets comfortable with her and taking her out on little short trips to the park or the local shop so she will eventually be able to look after her anytime no problem. We had a mutual understanding that because although my daughter is comfortable around her, she still doesn't know her properly so we agreed on building the relationship before any big days out or sleepovers so our daughter will be comfortable being away from us like she is with my mum.

My mum has always thought shes better than his mum and their family because we were both raised completely different and our morals and views of the world differ but me and my fiance have squashed that between us over the years and we are happier than ever and although we disagree on somethings the way we want out family to be raised is the same. My mum is starting to get jealous that I'm letting my fiances mum look after our daughter and take her on days out. For example; yesterday my mum asked me if I wanted to go shopping so she could buy me dinner for my birthday tomorrow and I said yes but told her that his mum is taking our daughter out for the day with her cousins (my fiances sisters children) but I would still come and it can be just us. She said okay but sounded disappointed. Then she text me on the night time telling me to book train tickets to the beach for a day out with me and my daughter and to tell his mum she can have her another day. I told her no, we have had this day planned all week, she is off out with her nana and we will go to the beach tomorrow or next weekend so she said oh okay then and never spoke to me again for the rest of the day. My mum makes digs about his mum to me all the time and Visa versa. They were friends and when they see each other it's like theres nothing wrong but separately they both slag each other off through us and we are in the middle of them both trying to keep our daughter the main attention and to try keep her happy seeing both sides of the family.

I basically just dont know how to sort it out and to top it off today is my due date for our second daughter and we have planned shared care between families for our other daughter and there is some tension between me and my fiance as we are trying to organise it so they both meet the new baby at the same time or else neither will be happy as my mum was at the birth and met her before him mum with our first as she was living in another town. So it's just hard to know what to do.