So I'm going to start this with I love my best friend. She is family and the mother of my niece.

But sometimes...I just wanna tell her to shove it..in a loving way lol 🤷

So some backstory..

My best friend has one girl at age 5 and a baby boy on the way. Neither of them were planned and were both total accidents. Both times happened because of a short lapse in birth control use. I, on the other hand have been officially trying for maybe 5 months now but have been having unprotected sex with partner for years. Still no baby for me. It will happen when it happens. I am not an unhealthy amount of stressed about it. We are setting up Dr appointments and starting a gym routine as well as looking into buying our first house. We just got our first reliable vehicle earlier this year and it seems as though things are slowly settling in their place. I am also slowly planning our wedding. So I am in no rush but am also totally ready for this baby whenever it decides to bless us.

I DO NOT RESENT MY BFF. I want to make that clear. I am however not happy with how she handles sensitive subjects such as my partner and I having a baby. It still stings whenever I get that bfn even if I am being patient. My BFF is one of the many people asking when my partner and I are going to have kids. Always saying we are so ready and just do it. This is fine. But when I told her about us ttc the way we are she disagreed. We are tracking my cycle with the app and using opks and just in general being conscious about trying. She believes that we should drop all that stuff and just be normal. Just forget about it and have unprotected sex. I have explained that is what we were doing for years and it didn't work for us. Then she goes on about how she must be a "fertile mertile" because of how her pregnancies were accidents and unplanned. Like, ok then? Maybe not the best way to reply to that. Maybe don't keep trying to tell me how to ttc?

Honestly this conversation happening once I can see as not being too bad, but almost everytime we see each other she says the same stuff. I have even been seeing less of her hoping to avoid an argument. I have explained to her how it doesn't always work that quickly for everyone. Most people actually have to try but we never hear much about those stories day to day because I feel as though women are uncomfortable talking about it in fear that someone may think something is wrong with them if they have to try for so long. BTW there is nothing wrong with it taking a while. It doesn't make you any less of a woman, I promise.

I have tried to educate my BFF and talk to her about how what she is saying doesn't help me or make me feel good. It seems like she just forgets the whole conversation. She even forgets that I have already told her we are ttc. I am so mentally and emotionally exhausted from having this conversation. I am actually surprised I haven't gotten angry with her yet. I have been super kind and patient with her because she is my BFF and she is also 36 weeks pregnant. I don't want to keep avoiding my BFF but I just don't want to talk to her about this anymore 🤦 I have no idea what to do.