I'm not to blame

Two days ago I left my daughter's father after being in a relationship with him for 3 years that turned so toxic and ugly.

When I left, he lost his temper and long story short- when I called for a police escort to get mine and my daughter's things, they decided it would be best to arrest him.

He got out tonight and I guess had told his family he wanted us to fix things and he was willing to do anything because he still loved me. Well, when he got out he texted me saying he wanted to see our daughter so I said we could arrange something. I think a big part of me was expecting an apology and for him to say he loved me.

Instead, he's sitting here blaming me and my family for him getting arrested and charged with 3rd degree assault. What do I do? Should I let him see our daughter? Should I wait until we have legal custody documents? I don't think he would hurt her, but I worry he wouldn't want to give her back.

Any advice is great thanks