First of all I just wanted to know if it is normal for girls with extremely late periods to take pregnancy tests. Say two tests every other cycle or so depending on how late my cycle is that month. Currently on cycle day 60.

Second: Does anyone else’s boyfriend get frustrated when he sees you have bought a pregnancy test? I made the mistake of telling him we didn’t have to use condoms anymore before I went off birth control and now we never use them. He says I buy a test every time I’m late. Yesterday he said, “I’ve been through this before and I don’t want to do it again.” I guess his girlfriend before me got pregnant and he didn’t want kids so he had her get an abortion. Mind you we have been together for 4 years coming this September. September 6th to be exact. I turned 22 this past May and am at that point in my life where I know I want children.

Every time my mom calls to ask if we’re ever getting married or having kids I basically lie to her and tell her we have both decided we don’t want to for fear of them changing how they think of him. He is dead set on never having kids and never getting married. I don’t know if it’s still to early in our relationship for me to be thinking about this but it’s the fact that he tells everyone when they ask that it will never happen and it bothers me so much.

Now having read this I want all of you to know that I love this man to the moon and back. I want to support him in his decision but it’s hard because Of how I was raised.

Sincerely, extremely disappointed, slightly saddened and confused.

...p.s. the no babies part isn’t necessarily all bad, just disappointing. It’s the marriage part that really saddens me. Am I being a baby about this?