I asked my fiancé if we could do relationship counseling. I told him straight up the reason why: life gets hard. I picked him to be my person bc he’s the person i love having good times with and the person I want to struggle with in bad times, bc at the end of it all he’s my person. But we also deal with emotions very differently and have different backgrounds. When things get hard, I get emotional and he shuts down. We cope differently and sometimes we feel hurt or disrespected not bc the other did anything intentionally, but bc of our differences. I want us to be able to fix things, to take care of things now when we’re in good times so that when hard times do come - bc they will- I want us to be prepared to fix things.

The last 6 months have been hard, blow after blow for me. We got engaged and my family has been hurtful and less than supportive. I got pregnant and then lost the baby a little after 2 months. He doesn’t feel the need to grieve bc he doesn’t even register it as our child and honestly that kills me.

He came from a split home. His mom was abusive and kicked him out at like 16. I only knew they had a bad relationship and she kicked him out, but found out about the abuse when his uncle came to visit. Apparently there’s even a restraining order against her now thats how bad it was. Amongst other relationships he doesn’t have a history of good women being in his life and honestly I’m scared that he’ll leave. So I hope this helps.