Lying, not appreciating me... idk what to do

So my boyfriend who I live with works everyday even weekends and he told me he is allowed to take one day off a week but he never has unless he’s had an emergency. He knows that I want him to take one weekend day off at least so we can have some fun. He never has.

On the 4th of July my family was having a cookout but of course he didn’t take the day off. He won’t see my family anymore for no other reason than he thinks he saw them enough the first year we were together and thinks that’s enough. Believe me I have tried saying everything there needs to be said about that to him but he still refuses. It breaks my heart and is very insulting to me. I’ve just accepted it though, I can’t force him to change. So I just let him know I’d be going, but would still like to do something with him when I get home.

So I came home at like 7pm and he was watching tv and I asked him how work was and he said “it was work” and didn’t talk to me the whole night because he was so tired from work. Didn’t suggest to see fireworks or anything.

The next day he was on his phone and gave it to me to show me something and I told him I was going to check out his phone. He sat by me and let me but seemed on edge. I opened his messages and saw a text to this guy at 2pm on the 4th of July telling his friend our address. I said “I thought you worked yesterday?” And he was like I did. I’m like then why did you send him your address while you were suppose to be working. He tried to bullshit me but it was pure stupid bullshit and it was beyond obvious he was lying and had the day off.

I tried having a long discussion with him but he refused to talk, it was just me saying everything I was feeling with him not settling anything. I was pissed at him for a few days but I decided to get over it. I’m not going to ruin days over him. I told him I’d like us to take a vacation next month, maybe that’s all we need is to have some fun. He was on board and looked online with me for a place and told me he’d ask for the days off, so then I can ask my job for days off, but wants me to be the one to call a travel agent. But the next day he came home grumpy and acting like an asshole and we got in a fight so he told me no more vacation. He didn’t even ask for the days off.

I just sit and wonder why I deserve to be treated like this. At this point I’ve done all the talking I can do, trying to get through to him. Believe me I’ve tried so hard. It’s hopeless. His job comes before me his guy friends come before me. I wonder what is he even working so hard for? He keeps talking about a new car, even though he just got one not too long ago, guess that comes before me too. But yet he still says he loves me and doesn’t want to break up? Idk what to do.

*I see his paychecks, I know how many days he works. But he thought he could pull that one over on me.