Mother too busy playing best friend. (Long post)

My mother and younger sister currently live two hours away from my husband and our family and we see them very rarely. My mother and sister have seen my daughter maybe 2-3 times in the 3 1/2 months since I’ve had her. We travel a lot to the town they live in but they never ask to see us when they know we are coming or when we are there.

Fast forward to today...

My mother and sister were supposed to come to our home to see my daughter and I before moving 10 hour away as we won’t be able to see them much. My mother text me saying my sister was bringing along two of her little friends. Which didn’t go over too well with my husband or I because we did not invite them, and while I know these two girls my husband does not and doesn’t feel comfortable with them coming.

My mother told me if these two girls can not come to our home then my sister and her won’t come either!!

I told her how ridiculous this was as they rather have these girls around then come spend some family time together before the big move. She told me she’d come without my sister that she’d leave the three girls home. I proceeded to tell her that, the three girls staying and her coming wasn’t the point. That I expect her and my sister both to come because I’d like them both to see the baby and spend time with her.

My mom won’t put her foot down when it comes to this kind of thing and let’s my sister walk all over her vs. making her come along for family time.

I don’t know the point I have in posting this I guess I just needed to tell someone how much it breaks my heart that my daughter hold very little importance to my family. My mom wasn’t a very good mother but I thought at the least she’d try and make some effort for her grand child but that doesn’t seem to be the case. 💔💔💔