Mommy friend issues

I have made a lot of mommy friends through various groups I have joined, and I also have many friends that were pregnant at the same time as me. I love them, but sometimes their comments rub me the wrong way. I am not sure if it’s just me being a weirdo, but I always feel judged.

There is always a constant comparison. They will ask, “Is your baby doing this yet?” And then comparing my child to theirs. Or if I try to share good news, they try to downplay it. For example: I texted a mommy friend to say my daughter had rolled over for the first time. I didn’t think it was weird or bragging, because my daughter is a few weeks older. She immediately responded with how their son hadn’t started rolling, but they liked it that way because they want him to be little forever. THEN literally hours later, they text me saying, “BABY JUST ROLLED OVER!!” Oh, so now you care?

Or, when friends go on and on about how they only use a certain brand of something because of chemicals or something. Like, I don’t care if you use organic diapers or whatever, but I am perfectly proud of my Target brand diapers, so stop shaming me!

Or, when you reach out for support, stating your baby isn’t sleeping well. And their response is “Well, our baby sleeps through the night. We are so lucky, he is so perfect. But sorry you aren’t getting sleep, I am sure it’s a phase.” Like, your baby is no better than mine. And I hate to tell your but you are a few weeks behind me. Sleep regression still might be coming your way, sister!

Sorry to rant, it just gets frustrating when it keeps happening. I do have some supportive friends that don’t make me feel this way, but I think the comparisons are way more common. Sigh.