Enough is enough.

Hey guys, this is going to be a long post but my husband and I really need help from anyone that’s gone through this or knows anyone that has. My husband was married before we got together and he adopted her son. So right now they share custody, but his ex wife is a nightmare. She calls my chain of command 24/7 (I’m active duty army) making false accusations (accusing me of drug abuse, child abuse, blocking her car in and not allowing her to leave, harassing her, having her number in my phone saved, etc) I haven’t spoken to this woman since Black Friday 2018, simply because she was yelling at me and I had enough. I told her to leave me alone, I didn’t scream at her or anything I just said leave me alone and walked out. My husband is a technical consultant and has an AMAZING job, with such amazing benefits but lately she’s been calling his work 24/7! Ask for his travel schedule, his pay schedule, telling them that they need to deduct child support for his check (without any legal paperwork) it’s gotten so bad that most of the office has blocked her phone number because she calls so much and harassed people. This has been going on since 2017, but my husband and I always try to take the high road and just ignore her because it adds so much more stress onto us to worry about her. But she’s starting to really get out of hand with trying to get my husband fired from his job and trying to get me into trouble for anything (she will call my chain of command on a weekend that we didn’t have my step son and say that I was bothering her and harassing her.) She constantly tells my husband that I’m making things hard for them and that I’m blocking them from talking about their son whenever I was away for training for a month she was texting my husband telling him how much easier it is with them whenever I’m not around and how much my step son loves it whenever I’m gone but I literally don’t even know when ever they talk/what they talk about, I only know whenever my husband tells me because he’s laughing at how she’s acting. I’m currently 36 weeks and she was actually telling my husband that there’s no way the baby is his and that I got pregnant while I was away at training (my husband ignores her whenever she texts him these things, but I feel it’s important to tell you guys just how crazy she can be)

Next week my husband and I both decided that we’ve had enough and are going to file protection orders to stop her from calling our jobs, but is there anything else we can do? I’m tired of the constant harassment, the constant texting she does to my husband about things that don’t have anything to do with their son or how often she does it (one time my step son left his jacket at our house after his overnight and she called my husband 16 times, sent him 10 text messages and even emailed him after he turned his phone off because she was calling at 6 am) I don’t care if they talk, but she will text him so much that he’s had to put her on do not disturb and he gets irritated whenever he looks at his phone.

To add onto: she has told my step son that my husband isn’t his real father, that if my husband yells at him that he can call his dad (her new husband), that if my husband accidentally dropped him that his mom will call the cops and have him arrested. He also has started to randomly tell my husband that he doesn’t love him (my step son is only 6) but after she married her new husband my step son automatically stopped calling my husband dad and started calling him by his name. All of these kill my husband but he’s trying to be understanding of the situation. She also screamed at my husband because my mom was at our house for less that 15 minutes before she left (she doesn’t live in the same state) but my mom apparently didn’t greet him kindly enough or give him enough attention.