Start a diary, write down the things that bother you and then be brave and address them with your husband. If he gets defensive, it's natural. Try not to get emotional, give him facts and make sure you're not just whining, but presenting your message clear and with certain solutions. We wish men could read our minds, but they can't. However, if they understand what the problem is and are given a way to resolve it, they'll love to help and will feel like they're super heroes. :)Going back to the diary: make sure not to focus only on negative. Write down the things you love about him as well. Sometimes we need to remind ourselves.Good luck!
How to talk to my husband?
I struggle with several mental illnesses (bpd, depression, anxiety, etc) and partly because of that it is REALLY hard for me to express my feelings to my husband.
I can be really upset about something (usually several things) and I can sit there and think of them all in my head and it makes perfect sense but as soon as he asks me why I'm upset it's gone! And I'll I can do is shrug. He gets angry and walks away and I end up even more upset with myself and him for not being understanding...
It doesn't help that when I do manage to tell him something he shoots it down or gets defensive... So then I don't even want to try.
Does anyone have any suggestions?? How should I deal with this? Thank you!
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