So me and my husband have been together for 6 years, married for almost 2. He has ALWAYS been dead quiet during sex, like I can't even hear him breathing. I asked him earlier after we had sex, why he doesn't seem to enjoy it. He told me he feels stupid and embarrassed to make any noise. Well, we had sex again a couple hours later (I get into weird moods sometimes and want it all day lol) and he made a few noises. And it really turned me on. Like alot. Afterwards, I told him I loved it and he still said he felt stupid. He said "You don't wanna hear what I'm saying in my head". Like calling me names (bitch, slut, whore, etc.) And honestly, I would LOVE if he talked dirty while having sex. He knows I don't mind being called names in the bedroom (I like really rough sex, being hit, etc) *Please don't judge me, our relationship is NOT abusive what so ever* Anyways, I just don't know how to make him feel more comfortable so he can let go and enjoy himself more because I was so excited while he was expressing himself. I wish he felt more comfortable with me to enjoy himself. He always says I'm the best person he's ever slept with because none of his previous partners would let him be so rough (He likes to "hurt" me during sex). Which is perfect because I love being "hurt" during sex. I allow him to do anything he feels like, except anal stuff which he totally respects even though he brings it up so much 😂 So I just don't understand why he doesn't feel confident enough to really enjoy himself. Sorry for the super long post, I just don't feel comfortable talking to friends or anything about this as I don't want to air mine or my husband's business. I don't feel comfortable enough identifying myself, so if anybody has questions, I will update the post with answers so check back if you make a suggestion or ask a question! Thanks in advance 🙃