So im exploring my body more PLEASE HELP

My boyfriend is new to sex somewhat lol he lost his virginity to me , when he's at work I try to stimulate my clit idk what the hell I'm doing wrong but it doesn't feel very comfortable I don't like the shower head and when I finger my self I feel like I'm not doing it right cuz I don't feel pleasures, rubbing my clot at times feels good BUT I do not have ORGASM HELP