What do you do when you have to put yourself first and your spouse finds resentment in your decision..

Married and lived together for a year before I couldn’t handle being away from home and losing myself completely..(Moved from West coast to East Coast)

Was I suppose to stay and suffer somewhere I couldn’t make money? We were struggling trying to get my business a float and it just wouldn’t take off.

I perused other options for money that just didn’t make up the difference like my career would have.

Was I suppose to just give up my happiness of being my own independent women/ business owner for the sake of helping with my step children and being a house wife?

Is it wrong to put yourself first in a marriage?

He thinks it was wrong of me to leave back home. I can’t blame him but he saw the spiral we were in.. the area we lived was low income and not thriving. Completely different than where I was from. No opportunity. Dinner jobs was the best.

I’m just confused on what is right. I was always taught to take care of yourself because no one else will and that you can’t take care of others until your capable of taking care of yourself.

Need opinions thank you!

Ps. We had a long distance relationship for about 2 years. I sold my home and tried to start my business in the new state I moved to. We bought a house which he was barely able to afford while I tried to get my business started. He became angry all the time that he was the only one working. What y’all don’t seem to realize is my purpose in life is partially my career. He was able to have that because he originated there. I had everything against me.

No I didn’t just run off! So y’all are telling me if you moved from a amazing place to living in pig shit you would be perfectly fine ? If you were meant to be a dr and you suddenly couldn’t and you had to work at dollar tree? You’d be happy?

I’ll tell you straight up. You wouldn’t feel happy and that man isn’t gonna fulfill that piece of you that you need to fill inside.

Y’all act like I should be a prisoner to an area that is dragging my husband and his kids and our family down. He loves his kids and does not want to leave their side and I completely understand that. I respect that. He respects I have a 83 year old father that needs help. I will inherit a lot of the estate from him. I have a business I make very good money and I’m appreciated. Would I rather have him by my side hell yeah! Can he? No not right now.

Second we utilized every resource we had. Went to counseling (which was very scarce anywhere around there..) I went to college. I worked at minimum wage. I tried and tried and tried.

You start feeling TRAPT. Especially going from long distance to closing the distance you are in the other persons world. There family. There friends. Y’all arnt really being compassionate on both ends.

You all act like you would sell your souls to the devil if you had to.