Hey guys I have a question, would like to see a man's side of view. I've been with my husband for almost 5 years now and this issue has always happened since the beginning. Being the fresh relationship, I overlooked it and thought it'd get better but it's actually nonexistent now worse than before. My husband doesnt want to touch my vagina at all, hes only maybe ate me out 3 times the entire 5 years weve been together and once was because I "made a big deal about it". He doesnt even want to use his hands on me. I've brought it up a couple times in conversation, because I was self conscious thinking maybe he wasnt attracted to me or maybe I smelt(I shower daily btw and always use wipes to make sure I'm clean) and he says it's just not "his thing", and I'm left without receiving anything unless he wants actual intercourse. We have no issues with straight intercourse itself but he absolutely refuses to have foreplay towards me what so ever. And when he gets off we're done, it's over. His idea of getting It on would be kissing me for a few moments then placing my hand on his penis until I take care of him and sometimes he wants sex or I give him head and that's it.

I love this man and we have a child together now but he is actually the first man ive been with to never really want to have anything to do with me there, it really crushes me especially since I never get any sexual attention in any form. In a guys view why does he do this? Is there anything I can do differently or is it my fault?