How would you feel?

Imagine you had met someone as a single parent and for the 2 years you had been together he was desperate for a child with you, but he lived 1 hr 30 mins away and had his own little business in his town.... and you couldn’t move area to be with him as your children were happy and settled in their school, they’d already had an unsettled life and you had to put them first.

He promised you you’d be together soon. He’s not a cheat and a decent man. He works all the hours god sends. But as you’ve already been a single parent you say, this time it would have to be different! He doesn’t have children but keeps saying he wants a baby with you, even though you keep saying it’s really hard work and you can’t do it without him. All through the pregnancy and it’s not an easy one he keeps saying “Don’t worry I promise I’ll be with you soon”

Then the wonderful day comes that you find out you’re expecting! You have 9 months for him to leave his very small business and look in your town, even if it’s for minimum wage, surely being together is what’s important. And then let’s see about sorting finances. He could live at yours rent and bill free, as you’re financially independent to a point.

But no...he gets offered a business in another town miles and miles away... lots of money but can only see you once a week as it’s 12 hour days running a shop.

2 months before you’re due to give birth he takes this job. Money/greed over family??? and all the years you’d spent saying you couldn’t do this alone again.

Would you feel resentful? Angry and hurt? He’s a brilliant Dad when he’s here once a week and FaceTimes and calls all the time, gives me cash when I need it, what I really want is him to help me with the baby so I can have a break sometimes and care for my other children’s needs. I feel so let down and frustrated. I love my baby more than life but I’m now even more a single parent and I don’t know if I can forgive him 😭 or how to not be moody with him when I’m absolutely exhausted 😩