Please be honest, do you ever regret having kids?

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Because I have to trot out this sentiment all too often...

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Honestly, I used to. Not anymore, though. But it was never because I couldn’t go out drinking or partying with friends, or anything like that. This is a bit long, sorry, but I’ll explain just in case someone else needs to hear it. 
My daughter is 14. I took every measure I knew to take in order to prevent getting pregnant, and still wound up a mom at 19. Her dad was 20, he was great to me but the relationship wasn’t sturdy. We weren’t ourselves yet, we weren’t sure what we wanted in life or who we were going to be. Her dad and I separated amicably when she was about 2, but I then allowed myself to be dragged through an awful 8 year long toxic relationship because I didn’t ever find my sense of self. I had her so young that I never got to be me, so I didn’t know how to be on my own. I stayed with someone who showed her what NOT to look for in a man because I didn’t know I was better than that. She wasn’t happy and tried to tell me several times in several different ways, but I couldn’t hear it. She suffered through that 8 years with me and she never should have. I felt like I did her a great disservice by having her before I had my own shit figured out, because I thought maybe I wouldn’t have exposed her to that stuff if I had waited. Additionally, the immense pressure of knowing that I had a whole human looking to ME for guidance and direction when I was still looking for it myself was suffocating. Terrifying. So, so very hard. I felt like I’d never be enough, like I’d never be able to prepare her for real life, like I was not the person she was going to learn from. It was a devastating feeling, overwhelming really. I felt like I would drown us both
When that toxic relationship ended, I thought the world ended too. But then I started to feel like a different person as time went on, and was finally introduced to the REAL me... at 32 years old. It felt amazing. I decided to focus on rebuilding the relationship with my daughter and we reconnected in such an amazing way. We learned about ourselves and each other on a whole new level without the shadow that had been over is for so long. I promised her that I would never let that happen to us again. If that meant I had to be alone then so be it. I realized that I’d rather be a good mom than be someone’s someone, and that would be ok with me as long as she was happy. 
I am 2.5 years removed from that toxic relationship and in a healthy one now with someone who loves and supports both of us. Part of our reconnection was the implementation of a weekly Friday girl’s night. No texts/calls, no friends, no boyfriends... just us. We order greasy gross takeout and watch terrible movies, sometimes we make funny videos on her TikTok account, sometimes we go out to the movies, sometimes we go out to dinner, or sometimes we go shopping. But we get a few hours of just us time and we love it. My ex would have said something to the effect of “you’ve known her for her entire life, shouldn’t you be focusing more on our relationship?” The thought of that makes me so angry. My current boyfriend thinks it’s amazing that we want to spend that time together and completely respects it. He lives with us so often times we will be having girls night while he is in the next room. He’s happy to leave us alone to do it because he knows the struggle my bond with my daughter went through when I was with my ex. I don’t feel like I have to choose between my daughter and a man ever again. And honestly, it would never be a hard choice again... my daughter will always win. 
Now that I have figured out who I am and have re-shuffled some of my priorities, I realized that I never actually regretted having her, I was just terrified that I wouldn’t do right by her. She knows we’re solid now. She knows that what we went through before will NEVER happen again. She has a very solid sense of self, something I did not possess until much later in life. She graduated from the 8th grade in June and will be heading to high school next month. I could not be prouder to be her mom.

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Oh no. Not regret. But sometimes I’m like “damn what I’m I thinking wanting 6 kids”
😂😂

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I’ve not had my baby yet, he’s due in December but I have a strong feeling regret comes with the package 😂

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I don’t regret having kids, but I do regret who I had them with. I thought I was in love, & I thought I was loved. If I could go back and change that, I would, but then I wouldn’t have my two wonderful kiddos. 
Do I regret being a mom? Hell no. It’s the best thing in the world (to me) Yes I do miss being able to go out and have fun with friends, but i’d rather be at home reading my kids a bedtime story.

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I don't regret having kids at all! but I wish I wouldn't have taking my husbands & I alone time before kids for granted!

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I dont regret them at all. There are days, like today, I just wish I could walk away for a few and just relax on the beach with my toes in the sand. No whining, no crying, no tantrums, just a few moments of solitude.

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Never regret having them just the person I had them with.

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I regret having my babies absolutely 0%... the only thing I ever regret is having them so young... like if I could go back, do the college thing, start my career and then have the same exact kids I have now, that would have been great! Lol

Please be honest, do you ever regret having kids?

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